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		<title>Is Your Life on Hold Until Your &#8220;Makeover&#8221; is Complete?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever felt like you’ve put your life on hold until things are “just so&#8221;?  Like you can’t really move forward until all of the details are in place, and you start to feel like you’re in a holding pattern? This has been my experience lately as my website gets a makeover.  It’s been [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you ever felt like you’ve <strong>put your life on hold</strong> until things are “just so&#8221;?  Like you can’t really move forward until all of the details are in place, and you start to feel like you’re in a holding pattern?</p>
<p>This has been my experience lately as my website gets a makeover.  It’s been brewing for a while now, and just in the last week or so I’ve acknowledged to myself that it is, indeed, time for a new look.</p>
<p>Since that acknowledgement, however, I feel like everything in my business has come to a halt.  For some reason, my usual business tasks that I typically take action on each week are not getting done.  Instead, I’ve postponed my routine activities and placed them on the backburner until this new website is up and running.</p>
<p><strong>“<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>Are you kidding me</em></span>?!”</strong>,  is what I’ve been asking myself lately.  With <strong>my perfectionistic tendencies</strong>, I know full well that it will take some time for me to create this new site.  I will find (and have already found) a variety of activities to distract me from moving forward.  Oddly enough, however, none of those activities are helping me to move my business forward in any way.<span id="more-833"></span>I keep wondering when the block of time will fall into my lap and I’ll be able to really make some progress.  The thing is, I don’t know when that will be.  It currently is not on the calendar.  (Online ordering has become so popular these days; if only there was a way to order some blocks of time!)</p>
<p>So, in the meantime, the best thing for me would be to continue  tackling my usual business tasks and creating the momentum with what I currently have.</p>
<p>Makes sense, right?  Well, from what I’ve discovered, very little of how I operate in business gels nicely with what makes sense.</p>
<p>I’m going to do my best to resist the temptation to “figure out” what’s really going on here.  (No need to get into analysis paralysis and then have that available as an excuse for why I can’t get anything done;-).</p>
<p>Instead, what I really need to do is to <strong>stay in action</strong> and continue moving forward.  Is my site as glorious as I would like it to be?  No, absolutely not.  But it’s been working just fine for a while now.</p>
<p><strong>So while I’m renovating, I still need to live in my current space</strong>.  Just like when you remodel a house.  It’s not as though you stop living until your new kitchen is complete or the painting is done.  Sure, there are inconveniences to deal with.  But ultimately your life continues.And the life of my business needs to continue as well.  <em>I can continue to make a difference and be of service, even though the makeover process is not yet completed</em>.</p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Wherever you are with your health, please apply this lesson</span></strong>.  You probably have a &#8220;better&#8221; version of yourself that you’re working towards.  In the meantime, though, remember to celebrate where you currently are and continue to live the fullest life possible.  There are still so many amazing parts of you that can be brought forward.  Don’t leave those hidden until you arrive at your goal.</p>
<p><strong><em>What have you been postponing in your own life, until things are “just so”?</em></strong> Leave a comment to let me know.</p>
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		<title>Is Perfectionism Leading You into the Trap of All-Or-Nothing Thinking?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 May 2010 22:54:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; I’ve attempted to write this post several times today, only to get interrupted time and time again.&#160; I do hope I can share what I want to say before the next interruption arrives (or perhaps the distractions have been welcome?). I make an effort to post something to my blog at least once or [...]]]></description>
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<p>I’ve attempted to write this post several times today, only to get interrupted time and time again.&#160; I do hope I can share what I want to say before the next interruption arrives (or perhaps the distractions have been welcome?).</p>
<p>I make an effort to post something to my blog at least once or twice per week.&#160; What I have been noticing over the past few months is that most of my posts have been links to audios that I have done, with just a little blurb from me included.&#160; Since I love to write, I started to question why it is that my blog has taken on such a non-writing form.</p>
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<p>After much thought over the past few weeks, what I have come up with is that because writing is an area that I feel is a strength of mine (even my friends from high school still recall the A+ markings I got on my papers;-), <em><strong>my perfectionist tendencies</strong></em> show up more than in an area that I don’t consider myself to be as strong.&#160; Even now, as I write this, I find myself re-reading what I have written and wondering about alternative ways of forming my sentences and selecting perhaps different words.&#160; </p>
<p><strong><u>But I’m going to allow what flows today to be enough</u></strong>.&#160; Instead of looking at what I post as something that has to be profound or that will be evaluated by everyone reading, I’m going to lean into a different perspective:&#160; when I share, in writing, my real thoughts and views, I trust that somebody will benefit, and that the more I am myself the more people will feel like they connect with me on some level.&#160; </p>
<p>Striving for perfection in the writing area has led me into that all-too-familiar territory of <strong>all-or-nothing thinking</strong>.&#160; I either write profound, life-changing posts several times a week, OR I don’t really write at all.&#160; And, unfortunately, for several months my experience has been the latter.</p>
<p>I see this type of thinking show up in a lot of areas, not only in my own life but in the lives of others.&#160; The health arena is famous for this way of thinking (just think about all those New Year’s Resolutions that people set&#8230;).&#160; I would imagine that, if you’ve ever set a health goal for yourself, you can identify with this.&#160; For example, when you want to eat healthier and you decide on a rigid daily eating plan…after a few days you’re not following the plan perfectly, and so instead of allowing for some flexibility and appreciating where you are succeeding, you discard the plan altogether.&#160; It’s either you do all of it, exactly as laid out, or you do nothing…</p>
<p><em><u>What about you</u>?</em>&#160; Is there something in your life that you currently have unrealistic expectations about, and these are leading you into the “nothing” direction?&#160; If you can’t do it perfectly, then you end up not doing it at all?</p>
<p>I know that this will continue to be a challenge for me, because even in the last few minutes I have changed some of my wording and re-arranged a few sentences.&#160; But, at least I’m getting this out there.&#160; Because if I don’t get “myself” out of my head and onto the paper, so to speak, then how will anyone ever benefit, how will anyone ever learn anything from me, how will anyone ever be served?</p>
<p><strong>Where are you holding yourself back, because you’re convinced that you have to be perfect?</strong>&#160; I certainly don’t have all of the answers, and this is definitely an area that I am, and probably always will be, a work-in-progress, but I do encourage you to ease up on yourself and allow yourself to open up to some middle ground.&#160; <strong><em>And, as I am reminding myself, there is, indeed, a lot of middle ground in which to participate</em>.</strong></p>
<p>I invite you to leave a comment and share an area of your life that you’re currently experiencing this type of thinking in; I’d love to hear from you and support you in your journey.&#160; My response to your comment won’t be perfect, but it will be real, and it will be from me;-).</p>
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